Jun 1, 2011

The Truth About Drama (Haven't we had enough yet?): On the Lexi Issue






"The weak are cruel, the strong have no need to be"

As you all know, June welcomed me and my closest friends (who are also bloggers) Lissa Kahayon and Patricia Prieto with a bang... and not the good kind. Apparently, a fellow fashion blogger and an acquaintance we all know in the blog-o-sphere has been bashing us and saying mean and terrible things about is behind our back. At exactly 2:24 PM, I received a tweet from a twitter user KarmaFashPolice which prompted me to visit a link. The exact tweet reads:


I clicked the link and was quite surprised with that I saw, right smack in front of me, were damning words, words I could not stomach ever being said about me at all. I am used to being hated on, mind you. But to see the hatred right in front of me... screen captured, copied and pasted was too much to bear. What have I ever done to deserve this?






It really hurts especially when 1) you thought this person was genuinely nice to you 2) you never deserved anything that was said, given you never did anything to her directly to get that kind of negativity. Not wanting to believe the allegations (I live by the
"Innocent until proven guilty" school of thought), so I tweeted, "#FashionBloggers support each other here in the Phils, sincerely. #fortherecord clarify the issue before passing judgment" which I think is fair considering the things being put out there were quite damning and can totally damage a person's reputation and I needed to hear this person's side of the story...for an explanation or a reason behind what was going on.

At exactly 5:26 PM, I got my answer...



I didn't quite know how to take it--- how can people just bash at random? Is bashing supposed to be a hobby now? I feel the apology, if you could call it that, was for the fact that things were released to the public. The reason behind the hatred & bashing,were never accounted for. I deserved a better "apology" and an explanation... than
this.

Looking back in 2007, when I started this whole blogging thing with Chictopia.com, I decided I needed an outlet to share my fashion choices and personal style, back then,to a small blogging world. More so, it was quite a handy tool for me- I used to chronicle in my Moleskine journal my outfit on a daily basis, so taking a photo, uploading it and seeing it on archive, seemed like the perfect solution for keeping track of my ensembles. Think of it as having Cher Horowitz's (from
Clueless) outfit matching software but way better.

Many times I have spoken about drama in this blog of mine. Many times, I have complained about my life having too much of it and many times I have rejoiced finally it has become drama-free. However as I write this entry and contemplate why I do keep a blog in the first place—it probably is that I have to admit my life is so full of drama (stylewise or lifestylewise) and the reason that I have suffered so much implications for writing about it is that people are interested in drama (the same way soaps have been a staple in television programming). I have come to the conclusion that if you are reading this blog, it probably is because:

(1) You truly are interested in my life and do care for me and need a constant update on my thoughts and my feelings but cannot seem to be in constant communication with me due to geographical limitations (this applies to loved ones and long lost friends who are up there or down under.)

(2) You want to know about the latest fashion trends- such as color blocking, my bipolar fashion sense, skinny jeans or what latest brand it is I currently adore especially through my: daily outfit posts. For reasons that you cannot fathom, I feel good whenever I do post such because I do care that people know what is in and what is so not. It is not about being shallow or superficial but more of this- I just love fashion and getting all dolled up. I want to make the world a better and more beautiful place, even in my own little way.

(3) You read my blog because you loathe me in the purest and most unspeakable form and that every post is subject to interpretation, for your part. For these people who view my page to find new reasons to hate me and talk about me, drama in my life is essential- they thrive for it and at many times, crave and pray that it comes in whirl wind form so that maybe I can just vanish from the face of the earth. For such people everything I do is wrong and everything I write negatively is about them—although rest assure, I am saying with all my heart that whatever I write is not concentrated solely on one group of people but to many and that being that we are in a free country, I will not apologize for being this way.

For those who read my blog entries and view my pages for the first two reasons, I extend my sincerest thank you’s for being truly concerned and for trusting my judgment and fashion choices. I love these people for they provide for me the support and the wisdom (through replies) that I do get. These really make my day and you cannot imagine my gratitude for always reading my blog word per word And replying to it incessantly. I love you guys.

For those who do read this with the sole intention to scrutinize me and berate me, all I can say is this: turn off your monitor, block my page from your internet explorer, firewall me, shut down your computer and never visit my site again. I make my blog public because I want to hear different things from different people but if the things I hear are hurtful and detrimental to both myself and my family’s sake, I need to put a stop to it and I am begging you to stop.

I am too ADD to keep up with the latest gossip, making me the friend you can spill every sordid detail to about your life and I will not tell a single soul. Rumors would only bother me if I thought for a second that people take rumors and gossip seriously. But to those who care enough to know the truth, I would like to clarify that.

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. People love talking about people who succeed, even I do sometimes since it makes me feel good to highlight their flaws amidst their glitz and glamour. I never ever do this to my friends or acquaintances without just cause.

I make REAL friends. And i do not make enemies. I am sincere when I speak with people and I am real with what I show. I do not get close to people to fish out information I can and might use against them when necessary.I will tell you to your face when I despise your actions. I do not hold grudges nor can I stand being plastic to someone I am disappointed with. I do not fight back and I have nothing to say to those who pretend to want to be my friend then speak about me to other people. If I hate your guts, I will make you feel it, you will know about it and I will tell you then and there and that means I still have an ounce of care for you. When I ignore you completely or do not even acknowledge your existence that means you have been written off and therefore you are no longer are a human being for me based on how hurt I have been and how low you have gone from what you have done.

I don’t have any secrets left to tell. One thing I’ve learned since I was traumatized and damaged by too much nervous breakdowns and relationship falling outs is how much I treasure my family and the real friends who have been with me through all my ups and downs--- they are more valuable than the Manolo Blahnik Embellished Stilettos we all have to line up for since like only 400 items were produced in the world.

"There are only a few people left in my life whom I trust implicitly and who totally trust me back. I used to think that was bad until someone pointed out to me that really, we can trust NO ONE. I realized the truth: true friends are like diamonds--- bright, beautiful, and valuable and always in style. You only need a few diamonds- including the one for the finger. Having fun with these diamonds is the least destructive drug. Even though I witnessed all the drama I have been exposed to since my life virtually became a live feed, I am currently experiencing how establishing relationships with people is like a giant magnifying glass--- and that only a perfect diamond looks good THAT close up. Is anyone perfect? No. As real people, we are flawed. And even if you adore me and think of me as one of the greatest girls you’ll ever know, my diamond is rough. I am no exception.

I guess that’s the thing about diamonds, they’re the most valuable things in the world, but what really makes them priceless is the people that give them to you. They may signify wealth, but they can actually mean so much more like commitment, family, and love. And there’s nothing like the perfect diamond to remind you that you’ll never be perfect. I will never be perfect… the truth is all I can do is try.

xx

PS: I love my Woo girls, Patricia Prieto, Lissa Kahayon and Nina Estacio. Let's keep our heads up sweeties and let the other people do the sucking in for us.




PPS: I love putting makeup and to those who have a problem with that, deal with it. It's my face. If you can't stand the fact I wear MAC's Pink Noveau, NARS Cheek stain and Bobbi Brown's BB Cream to the beach, then get your own face, and go with it au naturel.

PPPS: Thanks KarmaFashPolice for getting the truth out there. I guess we just all have to know who to really trust...at least we know. For the record, i think KarmaFashPolice did us service,the ugly truth is better than a best dressed lie.

PPPPS: Despite all the hassle, the anger, the hatred, I can still say with 110% confidence that:
Fashion Bloggers in the Philippines ROCK! And we all love and support each other. With the exception of some, we don't compete, that is the truth.





A shout out to the ff people who also gave moral support but received no credit:

Casey (who sent such a sweet msg. via DM in twitter)


and Diane (who messaged me in FB such a touching msg):




46 comments :

  1. Hey JL, can I just say that the Woooo Girls rock! Maybe that girl is just insecure and jealous because she doesn't have any real friends, plus your group consists of the "real" top bloggers in the Philippines. I just hate it when good for nothing people bash and hurt other people's feelings. I guess this is Lexi's downfall in the fashion/blogging community. Don't let one girl bring you gals down. ALL OF YOU ARE FAB & GORGEOUS GIRLS!!!! She isn't. She's just a scheming wannabe.

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  2. that Lexi girl has A LOT of inggit in herself. a person who bashes others and make "lait" has too much insecurity. a solid proof that not all girls that goes to prestigious school, has style and has a pretty face and can talk english with a twang are highly educated, well-mannered and raised securely and lovingly by their parents. they have fake confidence and security and it shows in their fake personality.

    JL, you and your friends are just wonderful as you are. Who cares if you wear make-up on the beach or you drink or your a bitch (as they think) - you are surrounded by love from your family and true friends and that's the most important thing. You have been raised full of love and security that you have this confidence and lovely personality that is admired by most. Something that money cannot bring forth from a person.

    Yaan mo na Lexi na yan - she's just one lousy detractor ;)

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  3. Whoa! I feel for you, JL. Those girls are utterly UNBELIEVABLE! Truth be told these haters are just ENVIOUS, because they do not have even an eight of what you have and already achieved. I admire everything about you: your zest for life and everything pretty, your fashion choices and most especially your transparency - be it your down and out or happy and giddy. These people should get a life. And you doll, should always keep ya head up! ;)

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  4. i love those words. more power and God bless!!!

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  5. Wow, this is ify, I don't know if I'd believe it, but if she really is a friend, there'd probably be no reason for her bashing you behind your back. Just go with your instincts on this one. Sorry that these words hurt you whether she said them or not

    Shasie
    Live Life in Style

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  6. I feel so bad about this. I've been getting hate mails that I'm making sipsip to you by commenting in but I'll comment anyway. I don't care anymore.

    I really felt bad when I saw this. It's like a slap in the face, I used to like her. But after seeing this, I pretty much changed my mind. :( This is so sad, why must one be so harsh? :(

    Well, you just keep doing your thing! You will forever be my idol! :) You are awesome!

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  7. OMG and to think I thought Lexi Gancayco was a sweet girl. Apparently she isn't. She made a bad move hatin on you, Patricia Prieto & Lissa Kahayon! Doesn't she know that she needs you girls? That Lexi girl can just go kill herself now.

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  8. Thank you for the love and support you have shown to me and my friends, Lissa and Patricia. While we are undoubtedly hurt and betrayed by Lexi's statements of hate, we all are going to come out of this harder, faster, better and stronger due to the overwhelming support everyone has shown. To clarify, we will not backstab Lexi as she has backstabbed us. We also refuse to express feeling of hatred towards her but rather, hurt, disappointment and betrayal.


    I also would like to say that:

    - yes, i did get out of a relationship with a boyfriend, the breakup was already 8 months ago

    - no, i am not making parinig to my ex in any way as I am single but happily dating now
    - yes, i do wear makeup to the beach, pool, etc. and i love it, and i won't stop. I also dont mind going bare but I do prefer enhancing my features.

    - yes, i do drink on occasion but i never slack off my duties because I'm prolly "still drunk"
    - yes, i did have a blood test and have a variety of physical conditions which limit me... yet i don't my being sick is too freaky... i've accepted my condition and expect others to respect that

    - if my sister does indeed look like Kim Kardashian, then that would mean she is a goddess and I take no offense in that...since I adore Kim. And btw, her eyebrows are amazing.

    - Weddings are a sacred thing. To violate such and make a joke out of the love and union bet. two people is just pure evil. To poke fun at them and post them as entertainment is a sin. You should confess, you might go to hell.


    Anything else you would like me to address, I will. Just say it to my face. Should you have questions, tweet me (@joannaladrido) or email me at shopglitterati@gmail.com, I will answer them :)

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  9. JL please react to the speculation that Lexi's doing this to put other fashion bloggers down so she can be the "top" blogger!

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  10. Were you offended by what Lexi did when she called your allergies/sickness "freaky"? Wasn't that harsh and unforgivable?

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  11. "Only the marvelous has power over you." And you're right. Others may speak of you badly but you're strong and you react to it with such powerful words. You are indeed marvelous, JL. Keep rocking!

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  12. "Anonymous said...

    JL please react to the speculation that Lexi's doing this to put other fashion bloggers down so she can be the "top" blogger!"

    I think that was not her purpose as she was sharing it "privately" to her very close friends. I think she's doing this cause she just doesn't really like other fashion bloggers such as Tricia, Camille, Laureen, Lissa, Patricia, me and the other people she bashed as posted on Karma Fashion Police. Maybe she feels better by putting us down to her friends or something. I don't know...

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  13. "Anonymous said...

    Were you offended by what Lexi did when she called your allergies/sickness "freaky"? Wasn't that harsh and unforgivable?"

    I was very much offended and hurt. I have been quite public about my health issues- severe allergies and heart problem... and for her to think someone being sick is "freaky" just goes to show her reaction and views on illnesses. I don't think sick people are freaks and that I will fight for, given I know what it's like to be on their side. Having a permanent illness is a serious thing and it should not be taken lightly. More so, i expected sympathy and compassion (the common reaction expected from people in situations such as these). While I do not hate her for saying such, I think it was very very disrespectful and tactless to refer to my being sick as "freaky".In terms of finding a way to forgive her for saying such, that I have to process. I would like to believe in the good in people, even if their actions contradict that.

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  14. "tinvinluan said...

    "Only the marvelous has power over you." And you're right. Others may speak of you badly but you're strong and you react to it with such powerful words. You are indeed marvelous, JL. Keep rocking!"

    Thank you so much Tin for the love and support. It means so much to me, to hear such from you. Cheers to being strong!Love ya~ xx

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  15. Hi JL, I think you are a wonderful person and wearing too much makeup doesn't make you a bad person (or whatever that person was referring to) I believe you have a strong personality and a good heart. You are admire by many through your fashion sense and I myself love your style. Keep it up and more success to you!

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  16. "CHANNIE ♥ said...

    I feel so bad about this. I've been getting hate mails that I'm making sipsip to you by commenting in but I'll comment anyway. I don't care anymore.

    I really felt bad when I saw this. It's like a slap in the face, I used to like her. But after seeing this, I pretty much changed my mind. :( This is so sad, why must one be so harsh? :(

    Well, you just keep doing your thing! You will forever be my idol! :) You are awesome!"

    Channie, I have to say, your comments and sweet compliments always brighten up my day and I love u for them. I am sorry to hear re: the hate mail you've been receiving for making "sipsip" to me. I hate that people think of it that way. But don't stop commenting! If anything we can take out from this issue, it is that there will always be people who will always be looking out to bring you down. All we have to do is face them, head on, guns blazing. Thank you for the love and support. It is deeply deeply appreciated. And I am very honored by your compliments

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  17. Hello JL!

    I saw your tweets yesterday! And if I could just hug you and other woo girls, I will :)

    I like Lexi pero nung nakta ko lahat ng posts nya sa iba't ibang tao na i'm sure wlang ginawa saknya, i dunno na :(

    But I still like, no love you! I love you style, make up mo and everything! :)

    God bless

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  18. people are always going to hate because they know that you are better than them. I haven't been following you for a while but basing on this entry, I know I will be looking forward to more of your posts. You are not just a pretty woman but you are also a woman of substance and character as well. And that is something your haters will never have.

    You carried yourself with grace! Kudos!

    xx, Issa

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  19. Hi JL,

    I have been constantly reading your blog. I have also added you as a friend in FB. I have known you since my La Salle days. But yeah, you might not know me but it's honestly fine. I just want to let you know that I have always been looking up to you not just as a fashion icon but also as a woman. As a fashion icon because you are never scared of showing the world who you really are. You never failed to let everyone know that fashion is not just about the latest trends but it is about one's inner self. It is art and self expression. And you, above all, have been fearlessly characterizing fashion at its best. As a woman because, I know you are suffering from a heartache, both figuratively and literally, but despite these things you still manage to come out strong and in style. I really adore you for this. Please don't stop inspiring. =)

    P.S. I have been meaning to send you an email about this but I can't seem to find or make time. But now, after reading this blog post, I realized that I should share this right now. This is nothing really, as you have been used to these kind of messages. I really just want to let you know.

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  20. Hi,

    I personally know Lexi, and even though we do not belong to the same circle, I've spent enough time with her to know that this is just how she is. I am not saying she is black hearted, cruel, or anything - she is someone who speaks her mind in a humorous manner. She makes side comments without really intending to be vile, if that makes sense. She isn't reserved, and simply says aloud what many of us are thinking (you have to admit).

    Although I do not condone this inbox bashing as some of the comments were very wrong, we must remember that this was a PRIVATE conversation among friends (the people in the thread are the people she was always with in high school) who just talked and had a good laugh. She never meant to destroy anybody's name to the public or ruin anybody's credibility. It was simply a conversation among friends - albeit, a nasty one which I am sure she is remorseful for.

    Were Lexi and her friends wrong for saying these things? YES. Does she deserve this kind of treatment and hate after? NO. Again, it was a private conversation that never meant to get out of hand. It's not like she wrote a nasty blog saying all of these things. It was unfortunate that she was hacked (on a side note - the hacker should also receive flak if not more. Hacking is NEVER acceptable, and to disclose all of this publicly is a much more vile act than what Lexi and friends did).

    What she did was wrong, and I am sure that by now she realizes that and regrets that. Let's not hate on her for making a mistake, one that was not meant to be shown to the world like this. So the real high road here is to put a stop to the nasty comments about her, telling her to stop blogging, etc. (BTW - there was no wrong grammar in her "apology"). Lexi is a beautiful, well-achieved, very bright and creative, and genuinely good-hearted person, I can attest to that. And her being jealous of other people? She has too many blessings to envy anybody else. She is a well educated girl (undoubtedly - Poveda and UP Diliman) who simply made a mistake.

    Kudos to Joanna, Lissa, Patricia for your posts as well.

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  21. I personally love your blog and follow you ever since I found out about you on Chictopia. So what if you like wearing make-up, drinking occasionally and going out on dates? It doesn't make you maarte, a drunk or malandi. I admire you for keeping your head up high and not giving them the reaction that they want you to make. They're just not worth wasting precious time over. I think you have awesome style, and if they hate on you, let them. It won't change who you are as a person anyway.

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  22. awww.. i'm sorry to hear this JL. i've been a fan of your blog and YOU ever since i discovered this and i think despite having everything you have now, you are still a good person inside and out. Don't mind them - haters will always be haters and having a grudge against other people will just take them down. I hope this will serve as a lesson to everyone not to be mean against anyone or if ever they decided to be one, then they should be ready with the consequences that being mean will offer. don't worry girl, you will be loved by everyone! :) kudos as well to the woo girls for not stooping down to Lexi and her group's level.

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  23. "Romina said...

    I personally love your blog and follow you ever since I found out about you on Chictopia. So what if you like wearing make-up, drinking occasionally and going out on dates? It doesn't make you maarte, a drunk or malandi. I admire you for keeping your head up high and not giving them the reaction that they want you to make. They're just not worth wasting precious time over. I think you have awesome style, and if they hate on you, let them. It won't change who you are as a person anyway."

    Thank you for this, will definitely keep my head up. Just live and let them hate! You're the sweetest Romina! Thank you!

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  24. "Anonymous said...

    Hi,

    I personally know Lexi, and even though we do not belong to the same circle, I've spent enough time with her to know that this is just how she is. I am not saying she is black hearted, cruel, or anything - she is someone who speaks her mind in a humorous manner. She makes side comments without really intending to be vile, if that makes sense. She isn't reserved, and simply says aloud what many of us are thinking (you have to admit).

    Although I do not condone this inbox bashing as some of the comments were very wrong, we must remember that this was a PRIVATE conversation among friends (the people in the thread are the people she was always with in high school) who just talked and had a good laugh. She never meant to destroy anybody's name to the public or ruin anybody's credibility. It was simply a conversation among friends - albeit, a nasty one which I am sure she is remorseful for.

    Were Lexi and her friends wrong for saying these things? YES. Does she deserve this kind of treatment and hate after? NO. Again, it was a private conversation that never meant to get out of hand. It's not like she wrote a nasty blog saying all of these things. It was unfortunate that she was hacked (on a side note - the hacker should also receive flak if not more. Hacking is NEVER acceptable, and to disclose all of this publicly is a much more vile act than what Lexi and friends did).

    What she did was wrong, and I am sure that by now she realizes that and regrets that. Let's not hate on her for making a mistake, one that was not meant to be shown to the world like this. So the real high road here is to put a stop to the nasty comments about her, telling her to stop blogging, etc. (BTW - there was no wrong grammar in her "apology"). Lexi is a beautiful, well-achieved, very bright and creative, and genuinely good-hearted person, I can attest to that. And her being jealous of other people? She has too many blessings to envy anybody else. She is a well educated girl (undoubtedly - Poveda and UP Diliman) who simply made a mistake.

    Kudos to Joanna, Lissa, Patricia for your posts as well."


    Thank you for defending Lexi and for explaining her side and personality as a long time friend. As we said, To clarify, we will not backstab Lexi as she has backstabbed us. We also refuse to express feeling of hatred towards her but rather, hurt, disappointment and betrayal.I guess what's getting everyone riled up is the fact that she can make fun of people in a very cruel manner (even if it was in private) while she can be all nice and sweet in person to us. It's confusing and quite opposite from how we always saw her. We did not expect things like these to be coming from her, in a joking manner or not. But I appreciate your explanation of her side. We don't hate her for what she did...we're hurting.

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  25. "Anonymous said...

    Hi JL,

    I have been constantly reading your blog. I have also added you as a friend in FB. I have known you since my La Salle days. But yeah, you might not know me but it's honestly fine. I just want to let you know that I have always been looking up to you not just as a fashion icon but also as a woman. As a fashion icon because you are never scared of showing the world who you really are. You never failed to let everyone know that fashion is not just about the latest trends but it is about one's inner self. It is art and self expression. And you, above all, have been fearlessly characterizing fashion at its best. As a woman because, I know you are suffering from a heartache, both figuratively and literally, but despite these things you still manage to come out strong and in style. I really adore you for this. Please don't stop inspiring. =)

    P.S. I have been meaning to send you an email about this but I can't seem to find or make time. But now, after reading this blog post, I realized that I should share this right now. This is nothing really, as you have been used to these kind of messages. I really just want to let you know."

    Thank you for all the kind words, they are very much appreciated. And from La Salle days pa? Do add me up just lemme know who you are! I am very very honored by the compliments, people like you make me strong esp. at times like these.

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  26. "LBSfashion said...

    people are always going to hate because they know that you are better than them. I haven't been following you for a while but basing on this entry, I know I will be looking forward to more of your posts. You are not just a pretty woman but you are also a woman of substance and character as well. And that is something your haters will never have.

    You carried yourself with grace! Kudos!

    xx, Issa"


    Thank you! I tried to be as graceful as possible in handling this situation as I was responsible for my reactions for what people do. You are very kind, thank you for the sweet words! xx

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  27. "Kariza Cruz said...

    Hello JL!

    I saw your tweets yesterday! And if I could just hug you and other woo girls, I will :)

    I like Lexi pero nung nakta ko lahat ng posts nya sa iba't ibang tao na i'm sure wlang ginawa saknya, i dunno na :(

    But I still like, no love you! I love you style, make up mo and everything! :)

    God bless"

    Hi Kariza! Thank you for the sympathies and for sharing our sentiments. We woo girls were at a low point yesterday but we're bouncing back little by little.... as for Lexi, we do not hate her for what she did but rather feel betrayed for this having to happen at all.I never thought so much hate can come from someone you didn't do anything to... :'( All we can do, is learn from this and as fashion bloggers, support each other, not hate. I hope this can be a lesson to all. Love ya! Thanks so much! xx

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  28. "AVA T.♥ said...

    Hi JL, I think you are a wonderful person and wearing too much makeup doesn't make you a bad person (or whatever that person was referring to) I believe you have a strong personality and a good heart. You are admire by many through your fashion sense and I myself love your style. Keep it up and more success to you!"

    Ava, thanks so much! You are one of the people who always showed support in the blogging community (w/Glitterati and all) and once again now, thank you for being so nice and for the kind words. Fashion bloggers are blessed to have such a kind hearted person such as you to keep them strong! xx

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  29. JL, you'll forever be one of my fashion inspirations. Keep doing your thing! What is the power of a hater, to thousands of admirers? Kudos the WOO girls! Keep on shining! :)

    <3,
    NIKKI

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  30. You're such a smart, classy, and strong woman, JL. I really love your blog and how you carry yourself with such confidence! You're such an inspiration to so many people. Just think of this as an experience to learn from. You really need to be careful who you trust. Stay strong and fabulous!!

    To quote the great Lady Gaga / Beyonce: "Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it's broken, but you can still see the crack in that mother f*ckers reflection."

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  31. Hi JL!

    I've already met you last time at the Deal Dozen Launching and I must say,you're really a nice person.Don't let this commotion bring you down.It just proves that you've gone a long way in the blog-o-sphere.When people back stab you it means you're waaay ahead of them.Cheer up and keep posting great looks!you are loved!:*

    xx,Nicole :)

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  32. Hi JL!! So sad to hear about what happened :( I too was once bashed it's something one should never go through it was awful :(

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  33. Sweetie,
    Who are those people???? WTF? Sorry but you didn't deserve that, and I feel bad for people like that, who have nothing better to do but stalk and be mean. You don't have to pay any attention to them because you know who your real friends are!!!

    Love you,
    Steph :)

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  34. A friend once said to me; "Give the man a mask he shall tell the truth. Give him a username and he will act like a twat."

    I like the way you are. Ignore the detractors. Just be true to yourself.

    Cheers,
    Am

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  35. "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me."

    Wow. Very well said.
    I never really post comments but I could not help but do so now. You are among the people that I admire for having a brave heart and such strong passion for fashion. I'm a senior in DLSU and I keep an "outfit inspiration" folder, among those people that give me the drive to dress up for school is you. You are obviously doing something right, evidenced by the things you have achieved at such age. More success to you! <3

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  36. Hi JL,

    I am a fan and in all honesty you are my inspiration. I check your blog from time to time. I want to be like you and I know a lot of girls out there feel the same. You are not alone in this. I can feel your pain because it happened to me too. Not only that, I am also a victim of cyber bullies. It was hurting but I know that haters out there are just jealous and the only satisfaction they can get is for me to vanish. Same as what you've said in your blog. Because of this, I am still contemplating whether I should open my life to public or not. Too much hate is going on already. Don't give up on life and never ever let this person get into you. Continue to inspire us JL. I know our words will give you comfort but what's going on behind this blog, that they don't know but I do. Be strong.

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  37. Jl, i love your blog!!!!! simple yet elegant. Btw, the girl's account got hacked?! poor girl. You know, i realized that people always talk about each other so just let this pass and look at yourself. ASK YOURSELF... DID I EVER SAY ANYTHING BAD ABOUT ANYONE? Put yourself in her shoes. Alam ko masakit pero feel ko ganyan rin naman kayo pagminsan. wala dapat magmalinis because everyone is entitled to her own opinion... Masakit man o hindi, marami man o konti, sa huli dapat lagi tignan ang sarili...
    maawa rin kayo sa girl dahil siya yung pinaglaruan at binastos at ng dahil dito dapat niyo pa siyang intindihin...

    paano kung ikaw yung nahack? tapos lahat ng pribado mong mensahe lumabas? ano mararamdaman mo?

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  38. Hi JL!

    I understand that what they said hurt, we've all been targeted this way at one point. But the thing is, I think everyone's making a bigger deal about this than they should. We all talk smack about people and it's unfair that Lexi's being labeled as "SUPER BITCH" for doing something that we all do. It was just a gossip-fest between friends. I'm surprised that people are reacting as if she intentionally wanted to hurt you. If you think about it, Lexi's now more of a victim than any of you are.

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  39. Hi, I understand that you're hurt and you want to express how you feel. But I think you're being unfair. Those messages were not supposed to be seen. Her account was hacked. Yeah, you might not be backstabbing or fighting back directly at Lexi, but you are using your blog for people to comment bad things about her and her friends. This isn't even a big deal. What she placed there was not meant to be seen, it was private. I am sure you've talked about mean things regarding other people with your friends as well.

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  40. Haters need a life, or a hobby. They should shut the eff up. You're fabulous, and well sure, people are people and do bashing sometimes but this type is personal. It's just off.

    Be strong. Much love, m.

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    =p

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