I am a complex person who loves to be in control. If there was a handbook on neurosis, I would be the perfect example for it. Everyone always tells me to "Go with the flow. Take my time. Do not judge your own worth by comparing it to the person next to you because life is not a competition. There is no winning and losing. All you have to do is show up." These are all frightening words to tell me- really since I am one who prefers to always be on top of things. I have to admit, I have never learned the art to just breathe, just be and do things at my own pace.
I have had quite an affinity to dressing up in a simple and very relaxed way the past few days and well, I guess that sometimes, it is also nice to pick comfort over style and this outfit is an example of that. I'd like to think it was actually more of a mixture as I love the distinct psychedelic print of the dress which I contrasted with a simple pair of man-dals. I legitimately think that this whole norm core thing has been affecting everyone in fashion nowadays and it's not really a bad thing...especially on a simple Saturday afternoon when you just want to chill-out. It is funny though, I have to say...since in fashion, we are encouraged to always stand-out... this new trend sweeping fashion-philes all over the world is actually prescribing us to "fit in." I never thought I'd like that idea but hey, I got to go to a lot of place without the chance of tripping over my 6-inch heels so that is a nice break...I have to say. While I have not fully accepted the full spectrum of what normal dressing is, (and I doubt that I ever will...) it's nice to have that option open for days you just want to throw the first thing you find in your closet. Simplicity is more complex than we'd like to think though.
Psychedelic Tie Dye Dress: Zara
Man-dals: Sewn Shoes
Jelly with Alligator Skin Strap and Handle: Furla
Gold Bangles: Tiffany, Ever New, Charriol and BVLGARI
Photos by: Paige
As much as I love setting myself apart, I have learned that it's not a mortal sin nor the end of the world to want to belong. Naturally, in this industry that I am in, I would love to believe that I am unique... (just like everybody else..) Sometimes, I have to confess, I tend to try so hard to distinguish myself from others through my actions, words, thoughts and of course: the way I dress. (I am afterall, a fashion blogger... among other things.) Sure, there are some times I don't feel the need to try yet one idea always supersedes another and I keep bouncing between finding peace and chasing my bliss. The discerning mind usually accepts that you can't have it all and that you have to choose one of the two. Sometimes, this "having to choose" thing is what keeps me in limbo. I look around and I realize that I am so similar to the people around me (though my two therapist beg to differ and oppose this thought quite firmly)- I find that I am just like everyone else especially the ones I don't know and are just passing by. I don't feel blindsided nor do I feel that my quest to be different has failed monumentally. Strangely, I am reminded that every day it is not always necessary to struggle to set myself apart.
Daily, I come across a variety of people- some act in a good way and some in a not so good way- I do not know them but somehow they reflect me and I see myself in them. The best people I see are the magnanimous ones- they are the indomitable human beings who baffle the world with the generosity they possess. They are always the first ones to respond and help when necessary no matter how rough their day has been. More so, they will fight against what is wrong, even when people care more about a peaceful way to go about things than doing what is right. These people are not perfect...they are kind and real. You will always remember them even if you only saw them once and even if they look just like everybody else. Their presence holds so much power and you will remember the way their radiance has permeated through. I've seen a number of such individuals and in them, I see who I want to be. Just like everyone else... but different... bona fide...genuine... authentic. I look at everyone and remember myself, see myself or see what I want for myself. It reaffirms my belief that I am not always alone in a crowd... and that that is absolutely okay too.